Let it go, Let it go, Let it go! If you are thinking that sounds a lot like Elsa, you may be right. I have been thinking a lot about what it means to let go, and how to do exactly that. I get the feeling it isn’t as easy as it sounds.
You may have heard the saying, Life is 10% events and 90% how you react to them. Is this part of the letting go process? So, if an emotion about a particular event keeps getting me stressed or upset I need to change my reaction? You may have a thought about that particular event but it may also bring out strong feelings. Whether it be anger, sadness or being elated, I always thought that you couldn't control or change and emotion or feeling but maybe I am wrong.
While waiting in the Denver airport for my flight, I pulled out my most recent Yoga Journal and flipped though to an article called Calm Within, by Frank Jude Boccio. To my surprise, the writer was talking about this very thing, Letting go! What stuck me was a passage that went like this... “When we open to the truth that there is actually very little we can control other than our own reactions to circumstances, we learn to let go”. For some reason I never made this connection.
Calm Within by Frank Jude Boccio. “When we open to the truth that there is actually very little we can control other than our own reactions to circumstances, we learn to let go”
What I discovered is not to change the emotion but feel it and surrender to the fact that you don't have control. Life happens and there is no stoping it. Stay present and try to find the silver lining in what ever the situation may be.
Here are a few methods to help along the way
- Write/Journal - Putting you thoughts and feeling down on paper can be therapeutic and healing.
- Meditate - Meditation can heal the soul, there are many meditation resources on the internet that can walk you through a meditation or you can simply find your favorite to read out loud to your self.
- Mantra - Repeating a single mantra over and over is another great method for acceptance or letting go. Mantras are said to leave a healing effect from the vibration it creates. Typically they are said (out loud or to ones self) 108 times, which is the amount of beads in a mala.
Here are a few of my favorite mantras:
- Om Shanti Shanti Shanti - (Ohm shanti hee shanti hee shanti hee) which translates to Peace Peace Peace.
- Om Mani Padme Hum - (Ohm mah nee pahd may huum) which is said to invoke compassion
Another option, and one of my favorite is a simple letting go ritual. What you will need is a white candle and a conch shell, fire place or an other safe place for flame. Light the candle and write on a small piece of paper whatever it is you want to let go of. Sit and contemplate on what it is you want to let go of and visualize it diapering. Take a few deep breaths and connect with your present. You can then repeat any mantra of your choice or simply say "I release, I let go". Light the paper with the candle and repeat mantra. Place the burning paper in your fire safe place and repeat mantra as the paper burns. When finished, take few deep breaths, say your peace and your goodbye.
I continue to learn to let go. I am a work in progress and that is how I like it!
This is my Journey!